While traveling the country and visiting with friends I have noticed that in the last two years most of my friends have
A. Gotten married
B. Had more kids
C. Gotten engaged
D. Started serious dating
In each location I meet the new guy/girl in my friends' lives and get asked..."so, what do you think" (That's a question about as loaded as "does this outfit make me look fat") This change in the singlehood, however, is not the point of my post.
There are a few friends (yes, more than one) who are "aquainted" with "significant others" but they will not call it "dating" or "courting". They are looking at this in the frame of potential marriage, but refuse to put it as a "serious courtship". On the other hand they refuse to call it "dating" because it's not so flippant and they really aren't going out on dates.
This is all fine and dandy to me a pretty laid back friend UNTIL you have to figure out how to refer to said person. They don't refer to him as a "boyfriend" and won't let me say they are "courting".
So finally I asked one friend, "What the heck do I call him?" She didn't know so I came up with my own term, pulled from the recesses of my memory reading old books. I call them "gentlemen callers". To me it gives more of a picture of a guy coming over whose interested with intentions, but not the usual dating.
As I have always said...arranged marriage would just make this so much easier. =0))
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Actually, I'm not sure I like the term "gentlemen caller" either.
Doesn't that sound just a little sinister to you? I can see him now, sidling up alongside you in a dark alley.
Aren't there any other titles?
Really?!? that is the image "gentleman caller" conjures up in your mind? hmmm...seems like a "caller" would announce his presence. Ha ha...well we have to have SOME title now don't we.
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